Upset

Discussion in 'General Discussions and Advice' started by leslie hempel, 20 Dec 2008.

  1. leslie hempel

    leslie hempel Moderator MASA Contributor

    Joined:
    7 May 2007
    Posts:
    14,546
    Likes Received:
    287
    Location:
    Gonubie East London
    geez guys have i been having a hard time trying to get my yellow tangs back...

    a couple months ago i was urged by 2 people (1 a family member and the other a friend) to sell them my yellows and my clams when i pulled my tank down to construct the new stand as the old one was warping and threatening to crack the tank...

    needles to say things went wronf.. the friend took 3 clams and the family member 3 yellow tangs.. i declared that once they left my possession the risk became theirs.. one of the clams died and i was only pd for 2... so i left it.. the yellows were never pd for and the story was that the petrol price had gone up and his petrol card had been taken away and fuel was now for his expence...

    about 2 weeks ago my wife asked the family member who took the tangs if he was still going to buy them his reply was "i dont know" she asked him again last weekend and he went ballistic basically saying that he deserved to keep the tangs as he had looked after them and for all the favours he had done for us.. i demanded the cash at least have forfeited all the corals and just want to be able to replace my tangs...

    after an ugly battle i have finally gotten the cash.... i am very pissed off... i gave him the tank, rock, pumps at cost, saved him R1K on skimmer and although the tank burst (second hand glass that i had pointed out chips etc beforehand and a design flaw which i will take responsorbility for) i was still held liable for even though i gave him the glass...

    the reason i am rambling on about this is to show you how nasty this game can get.. this is not the first time i have helped someone and been burnt... so guys as nice as it can be this hobby really has a dark side...

    hoping that no one else experiences what i have just gone through...
     
  2. AdS Guest




    to hide all adverts.
  3. Mike

    Mike Retired Moderator

    Joined:
    12 May 2007
    Posts:
    7,859
    Likes Received:
    30
    Location:
    the Motherland
    Well that's two people to cross off your Christmas card list - rotten *****
     
  4. keyaam

    keyaam

    Joined:
    28 Jul 2008
    Posts:
    2,502
    Likes Received:
    16
    Location:
    Cape Town
    Sorry for your loss leslie. From what i've seen, kunhardt's tank looks good due to your assistance. And your new tank looks awesome. This hobby is not suppose to be that way but when it becomes business it tends to. Trust me i've heard a few stories about the marine industry. Keep your chin up bro
     
  5. gemini9241

    gemini9241

    Joined:
    28 Sep 2008
    Posts:
    242
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    boksburg
    no not marines just a few rotten people i know they family but i had to say it
     
  6. Shaun

    Shaun Retired Moderator

    Joined:
    29 Aug 2007
    Posts:
    5,274
    Likes Received:
    15
    Location:
    KZN
    That is Family for you. I know what they can be like.
     
  7. seank

    seank

    Joined:
    24 May 2007
    Posts:
    11,984
    Likes Received:
    119
    Location:
    North of Durban and South of Mozambique
    Not only family. "Normal" people does this too
     
  8. HenkHugo

    HenkHugo

    Joined:
    10 May 2007
    Posts:
    3,629
    Likes Received:
    29
    Location:
    Cape Town
    yea well - family sucks.... looks like i will be spending xmas at my place in my pool drinking my bubbly... screw'em....
     
  9. gemini9241

    gemini9241

    Joined:
    28 Sep 2008
    Posts:
    242
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    boksburg
    dude u have friends henk plus i will be in ct tuesday so see u soon henk
     
  10. scubaninja

    scubaninja

    Joined:
    20 Jul 2008
    Posts:
    6,739
    Likes Received:
    21
    Location:
    Durban
    sorry to hear. when you first spoke of this i hoped it wouldn't turn ugly. this is why i try and avoid gettin into these situations including buyin stuff over the net, but the admin etc are helpin on this, but family? that is plain wrong, that crosses a line. i would go with a net to the place and catch them. its turned ugly already and fair is fair. sorry once again les
     
  11. leslie hempel

    leslie hempel Thread Starter Moderator MASA Contributor

    Joined:
    7 May 2007
    Posts:
    14,546
    Likes Received:
    287
    Location:
    Gonubie East London
    sorry guys dident mean to dampen the sprit.. im just really bummed.....
     
  12. Punk

    Punk

    Joined:
    4 Sep 2007
    Posts:
    678
    Likes Received:
    4
    Location:
    Johannesburg
    very sorry to hear les, that's why i never lend or borrow money from/to friends or family, i've also had to "write off" lots due to similar situations as you've got

    i once sewed my best friend 'cause i sold him a couple of laptops and other equipment and told him he could pay me back as and when he gets cash, after more than a year he didn't pay me a cent but always had money for drinking and buying other stuff, when the lawyers contacted him he got a huge fright and paid me in full the next day! :lol: needless to say we're not friends anymore

    it gets even uglier when dealing with family......
     
  13. HenkHugo

    HenkHugo

    Joined:
    10 May 2007
    Posts:
    3,629
    Likes Received:
    29
    Location:
    Cape Town
    i'm very happy to spend some time on my own :thumbup:
     
  14. leslie hempel

    leslie hempel Thread Starter Moderator MASA Contributor

    Joined:
    7 May 2007
    Posts:
    14,546
    Likes Received:
    287
    Location:
    Gonubie East London
    thanks for the support guys it is an ugly thing.. i have been communicating with him through my wife so as to try not give him a piece of my mind.. i have been called a coward for doing so but i have done so so that there will be no unnecessary emotional outbursts and there is some thread of possibility of a reconcilliation in the distant future... miracles do happen... i will be very cautious from now on... the funny thing is that if i owe someone something it bugs me untill i sort it out no matter how long it takes... at least it leaves me with a clear concience...
     
  15. jacquesb

    jacquesb Retired Moderator

    Joined:
    29 May 2007
    Posts:
    17,868
    Likes Received:
    69
    Location:
    Cape Town
    Sorry to hear this Leslie..... Ya - unfortunately I have too learnt some very bad lessons....

    You were in a terrible situation - because you were sort of "forced" to do this - with the possibility of the tank crashing and all.......

    I hope something now happens that you feel better about all if this....
     
  16. gemini9241

    gemini9241

    Joined:
    28 Sep 2008
    Posts:
    242
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    boksburg
    fine then wont see u then :razz:
     
  17. Tobes

    Tobes Retired Moderator

    Joined:
    30 Nov 2007
    Posts:
    9,482
    Likes Received:
    118
    Location:
    A Beautiful place!
    Ahh, family - BIG word!!! I also helped out family in the past. They didn't have a car so when I bought myself a new car, I gave them my old car, in perfect running condition, new tyres, engine just redone and road worthy. Anyway, they sold it shortly after that :( and I also borrowed them R30 000 and never saw that money again after being promised I will be paid back. Obviously we're not talking anymore...
     
  18. Ocean

    Ocean Lazy Sea Slug

    Joined:
    14 Nov 2007
    Posts:
    1,217
    Likes Received:
    8
    Location:
    CT
    Glad Im only 15, this looks REAL messy!
     
  19. keyaam

    keyaam

    Joined:
    28 Jul 2008
    Posts:
    2,502
    Likes Received:
    16
    Location:
    Cape Town
    Thats family for you
     
  20. Hill

    Hill

    Joined:
    8 May 2007
    Posts:
    1,473
    Likes Received:
    3
    Location:
    Auckland
    Yep, it is always the people that you least expect that let you down.
     
  21. Mekaeel

    Mekaeel Moderator MASA Contributor

    Joined:
    8 May 2007
    Posts:
    24,229
    Likes Received:
    127
    Location:
    Point Waterfront Durban
    Sorry to hear Les :( That's the reason why I prefer not to deal with family.
     
Recent Posts

Loading...
Similar Threads - Upset Forum Date
have you ever been so upset The Sump 17 Aug 2011