I don’t know where to begin but I’m going to give this a shot. I’m about at the end of my rope!
About a year ago, two brothers, and one female (who is married to one of the brothers) moved in next door to grandma. They are all in their mid to late 40’s. All three have qualified for government assistance because they have been declared not capable of holding a job by the government.
They live in the same house that my grandmother’s sister lived in for 45 years. The sister had to move away a few years ago and sold the house. This left a huge void in my grandmother’s life, especially since we recently lost my grandfather. My grandparents were married 67 years.
The oldest brother is brain damaged from a drug deal gone bad! Someone who he owed money to for drugs broke into his house and beat him into a coma. He spent two years in physical rehab over this brain damage. Yes, I have verified that this did happen!
The youngest brother is not a problem, he never speaks, and I rarely see him. However I suspect that he too has some issues since the government pays him to sit on his butt all day.
Now to the wife. She has told me that her two daughters are in their 20’s and that the state took them away when they were 2 and 3 years old because she had a drug problem, which she has now stopped. When the two kids became adults they contacted their mom and started a relationship. My neighbor now claims that the daughter tried to poison them by putting bleach in their drink.
My neighbor also told that me she herself is Schizophrenic and takes medication for it. She has also asked me if she can come over and stay here when her husband and brother-in-law are gone during the day because she is afraid to be alone. Sorry, I’m not your mother!
In the last year they have been asking my grandmother for money and other miscellaneous things. I put a stop to this when I moved in…..So I thought!
My grandmother is/was a closet smoker. Apparently she has done this all of her life and was able to keep it from the rest of the family. The only one that she has told is my neighbor. The neighbor openly joked about smoking with my grandmother and taking her for cigarettes before my grandmother became ill with dementia. I have told the neighbors that I don’t want grandma smoking and that they were not allowed to give her cigarettes. It is a threat on both of our lives. I have found and even showed the neighbors the plastic cups that she has used as ash trays! She’s going to burn the damn house down if she continues.
Grandma is smoking again in the bathroom that I just had painted. She has been caught hiding the butts in the garbage can, under a bunch of papers!!! The only one that would give her cigarettes is the neighbor. No point in asking grandma. She will deny (and has) that she smokes even when I catch her with a lit cigarette in her mouth!!!!! I’ve searched the house and can’t find her smokes. I’ll keep looking!
I’m afraid that if I talk to the neighbors again I won’t get anywhere. I have asked them not to come over unless they call because if I’m in the shower or bathroom and the door bell rings, grandma will try to answer it, and likely fall. They come over anyway without calling. Today she came over and I told her she had to leave because the nurse was coming to bath grandma. She wouldn’t leave. I had to keep asking her to leave. Then she asks if I have anything cold to drink! I told her no! She ALWAYS wants something cold to drink and ALWAYS needs to use the bathroom. I’m not packing you a road soda and you should have used the bathroom when you left your house 10 seconds ago!!!!
The weather is starting to get nice here and I feel like I’m a prisoner. If I sit outside they will come over, asking for things. My grandmother thinks they are nice people. They likely were nice to my grandmother since she was giving them money all the time for doing small things around the house. Thankfully grandmother no longer has large amounts of money that she can easily get to. My mother is now in control of that.
Now before anyone starts flaming me because this person has a mental disorder…. I understand that, and I have honestly tried to be civil, fair and tolerant of them for the sake of peace and my grandmother. However, my life is now in jeopardy. I have to sleep some time! I’d like to do so without the fear of grandma lighting up and burning the house down. I really want to find a way to handle this without causing more problems. Unfortunately, I can’t come up with anything. This woman’s mentality is minimal. She is rude and interrupts people when they are talking. To add to it my grandmother has a dissected aorta. If she gets upset because I won’t let her “friends” come over. Her blood pressure will rise and the aorta could rupture and she will be gone in seconds! We tried putting her on blood pressure meds but her BP went too low and she had to be taken off of the meds.
Anyone have any ideas? I’ve hit a road block!
About a year ago, two brothers, and one female (who is married to one of the brothers) moved in next door to grandma. They are all in their mid to late 40’s. All three have qualified for government assistance because they have been declared not capable of holding a job by the government.
They live in the same house that my grandmother’s sister lived in for 45 years. The sister had to move away a few years ago and sold the house. This left a huge void in my grandmother’s life, especially since we recently lost my grandfather. My grandparents were married 67 years.
The oldest brother is brain damaged from a drug deal gone bad! Someone who he owed money to for drugs broke into his house and beat him into a coma. He spent two years in physical rehab over this brain damage. Yes, I have verified that this did happen!
The youngest brother is not a problem, he never speaks, and I rarely see him. However I suspect that he too has some issues since the government pays him to sit on his butt all day.
Now to the wife. She has told me that her two daughters are in their 20’s and that the state took them away when they were 2 and 3 years old because she had a drug problem, which she has now stopped. When the two kids became adults they contacted their mom and started a relationship. My neighbor now claims that the daughter tried to poison them by putting bleach in their drink.
My neighbor also told that me she herself is Schizophrenic and takes medication for it. She has also asked me if she can come over and stay here when her husband and brother-in-law are gone during the day because she is afraid to be alone. Sorry, I’m not your mother!
In the last year they have been asking my grandmother for money and other miscellaneous things. I put a stop to this when I moved in…..So I thought!
My grandmother is/was a closet smoker. Apparently she has done this all of her life and was able to keep it from the rest of the family. The only one that she has told is my neighbor. The neighbor openly joked about smoking with my grandmother and taking her for cigarettes before my grandmother became ill with dementia. I have told the neighbors that I don’t want grandma smoking and that they were not allowed to give her cigarettes. It is a threat on both of our lives. I have found and even showed the neighbors the plastic cups that she has used as ash trays! She’s going to burn the damn house down if she continues.
Grandma is smoking again in the bathroom that I just had painted. She has been caught hiding the butts in the garbage can, under a bunch of papers!!! The only one that would give her cigarettes is the neighbor. No point in asking grandma. She will deny (and has) that she smokes even when I catch her with a lit cigarette in her mouth!!!!! I’ve searched the house and can’t find her smokes. I’ll keep looking!
I’m afraid that if I talk to the neighbors again I won’t get anywhere. I have asked them not to come over unless they call because if I’m in the shower or bathroom and the door bell rings, grandma will try to answer it, and likely fall. They come over anyway without calling. Today she came over and I told her she had to leave because the nurse was coming to bath grandma. She wouldn’t leave. I had to keep asking her to leave. Then she asks if I have anything cold to drink! I told her no! She ALWAYS wants something cold to drink and ALWAYS needs to use the bathroom. I’m not packing you a road soda and you should have used the bathroom when you left your house 10 seconds ago!!!!
The weather is starting to get nice here and I feel like I’m a prisoner. If I sit outside they will come over, asking for things. My grandmother thinks they are nice people. They likely were nice to my grandmother since she was giving them money all the time for doing small things around the house. Thankfully grandmother no longer has large amounts of money that she can easily get to. My mother is now in control of that.
Now before anyone starts flaming me because this person has a mental disorder…. I understand that, and I have honestly tried to be civil, fair and tolerant of them for the sake of peace and my grandmother. However, my life is now in jeopardy. I have to sleep some time! I’d like to do so without the fear of grandma lighting up and burning the house down. I really want to find a way to handle this without causing more problems. Unfortunately, I can’t come up with anything. This woman’s mentality is minimal. She is rude and interrupts people when they are talking. To add to it my grandmother has a dissected aorta. If she gets upset because I won’t let her “friends” come over. Her blood pressure will rise and the aorta could rupture and she will be gone in seconds! We tried putting her on blood pressure meds but her BP went too low and she had to be taken off of the meds.
Anyone have any ideas? I’ve hit a road block!
